Tag Archive - First Call

Baby Pastor School

Last week I participated in the Institute for Congregational Ministry Retreat.  ICM is the major component of First Call Theological Education for ELCA rostered leaders in the Northeast. It is required of all rostered leaders in their first three years of ministry. This is also known for those of us who went to the Lutheran Theological Seminary in Philadelphia as “Baby Pastor School.”

I honestly did not hear too many good things about this retreat – I heard that one of the things that participators really enjoyed was the night time activities.  However, I enjoyed the retreat much more than I thought I would.  I was able to see seminary classmates that I have not seen since graduation.  I was also able to hang out with one of my favorite people in the whole world – who also happens to be my daughters Godmother (or baptismal sponsor).

I really enjoyed the speaker Mark Allen Powell.  He talked about the Book Christ and Culture.  This was a book we read in seminary and I can’t say that I really enjoyed the book when we read it.  It is a tough read and it was one of those books that we had to read quickly and then talked about it in very vague terms.  This time as a pastor in a church trying to identify itself, I really took in what Dr. Powell was saying about how churches relate to the world.  I think as a church it would be good to talk how we as the church relate to the world.  I wonder how people in the church on 370 see themselves and if it is not something that is consistent with our theology as ELCA Lutherans then can we change that? What do we do to change that?

The work shops that I really enjoyed were about money.  The first was one that dealt with Clergy Taxes — now this is a very confusing thing but I think I am starting to understand it some.  However, with that being said I am going to find myself a good accountant that deals with clergy taxes.  Especially this year since I worked three different jobs in three different states and one job (my current one) is in ordained ministry.

The other workshop that i really enjoyed was about personal and church stewardship.  We looked at our financial history (including childhood) where we as pastors are financially and where we want to be.  When you talk about money as a pastor you think about your congregation as well.  How do we encourage those who are sitting in the pews to think of their personal stewardship as giving thanks to God for what God has blessed us with instead of thinking it as giving to meet the budget, or thinking that whatever I have in my pocket after a busy weekend I will give to the church. I think for Lutheran’s it is difficult to talk about money and the church, because it is not a should or should not question  — our theology does not ask that question, that is a question the mega church down the road asks.  Our theology is talking more about our response to what God has given us, but it is not a guilt type thing.  For Lutherans it is always a yea…..but. type thing.

I am not sure what the next two years will bring me as I attend this event but I know next year I will not be dreading it as much as I did this year and I will be excited to see what happens.

What is Ministry

I have been thinking about this question since I started my call in July….what is ministry?

When I was in youth ministry before and during seminary, ministry for me was connecting with the youth of the church. It was sending out permission slips and making phone calls. It was getting in the lives of the youth of the church making sure they felt weclome and that they were being treated fairly in the church.

During seminary (at least the educational part) ministry was filling my head with knowledge. I read hundreds of books about the Old and New Testament, Pastoral Care, preaching, basic and not so basic theology, and anything else they could throw at us. Ministry was learning.

I had my internship during seminary and that was a learning experience. Besides learning about the church, the context of ministry, I learned how to apply some of the stuff I read in books to actual ministry situtations. I also learned how to change my name to a title of “Vicar”

The main purpose of ministry for me was relating with people. It was getting out there and getting to know people and hear their stories. As I settle into my first call, my idea of ministry changes — I still believe relationships are key to good ministry. In order to know the context of ministry that you are in, you have to know the people in which you serve. That is fundmental in my opinion…..

But I have expanded that, there are so many behind the scene type things that need to get done, I have been amazed at the type of things that I have needed to do the last three months. There have been things that I have had to deal with that I never learned in seminary or on internship. If it was not for my mentor and colleagues I would not of made it. I have learned that ministry is relating to colleagues because I would never last as a pastor who is out there trying to do things on my own without support.

Ministry is evolving and never really constant, when you think you know what ministry is – it changes into something else. Ministry is thinking a month a head of time, while at the same time reflecting and learning from the recent past.

Even though I have not figured out what ministry is — perhaps I never will, I do know that I love ministry. I love the basic parts of ministry and I love being able to experiment in ministry in the church – to help people find God moments in their life.

What has really helped you?

To all my pastor friends out there (or soon to be pastors or anyone else with ideas)….

What has really helped you in your ministry?  I am talking about “stuff” (ie books, home communion kits, albs or other worship stuff ect)

As someone going into a first call situation what will I need to have a successful first six months to a year?  Is there something that you wish you had when you started? Or was there something that really helped you that you are glad that you had?  Any and all advice is welcome.

 

Thanks!

New Job, New Home, New Blog

I have been a pastor for a week.  It feels good.  I came into the church with 65-70 kids running around during Vacation Bible School.  It was kind of crazy — but a good kind  of crazy.  I prepared for my first service as well as my first time presiding over communion.  It was a good feeling — it really helped me solidify my call as a pastor.  It helped me gain more confidence in this vocation that I have been called too.

There is so much going on right now it is hard to sit down and spill everything out.  It feels like my life is a fast moving train and there is no way to stop it.  However, with that being said things are coming together. 

We moved in our new place and really like it.  We have a garage full of boxed somewhat organized into different piles but there is still unpacking that needs to be done. 

I am getting more and more familiar with the church and how the church runs.  I am finding out their style of ministry while I am finding out my own.  I think we will work well together.

I am trying to catch up on things like emails, blog posts, well wishes and I would like to establish a routein.  I guess things will eventually come……..

I have to get my office in order.  I have a number of boxes of books that need to come in and get organized and my office furnature needs to be arranged to how I want it- I just need to figure out how I want it :)

Ministry is fun – ministry can be overwhelming.  I hope that the fun comes sooner than later :)

 

PS – since I have lots of new stuff going on I decided to change the look and title of my blog.  I hope to stick with this one for awhile.  There are other adjustments that need to be made but I decided to call it “Life Together” – I chose this since I am starting a new life- That involves you, my new church home and community.  I also enjoy the book by the same title by Bonhoeffer.  You should check it out! (another blog topic for the future)

Vermont

It is nice to be back in Vermont for awhile.  There is a calmness about Vermont that is unlike anywhere I have been since I left.  People here still have the “east coast attitude” that you need to be going 100 miles an hour but there is a laidbackness to life at the same time.  I don’t know if that makes sense but you can feel it when you are here.

It is fun to see my kids interact with their grandparents and Uncles and cousins.  I feel better knowing that they are getting to know their extended family.  Since my potential call is around 4 hours away I hope we can make it back to Vermont more often- especially during the summer time.  Who wants to drive anywhere in upstate NY or Vermont in the winter?!?!!

I am hoping we have secured a place to live.  We have been working at that since mid May.  I have talked with everyone about house buying vs house rental.  We have checked out many housing units and have decided to rent for awhile.  We want to get to know the area and to save up and have a solid foundation going into owning a home.  This process of first call is drawn out but when you are moving you are moving fast so we want to make sure we do the right thing.

I have not had too much experience in rent to own- but that was an option for one place.  Actually the rental we are hopefully moving into has the exact same layout at the rent to own, but we did not like the terms and so we decided not to move forward with that.

I am still working at the restaurant here in Vermont.  I still do not like going there……. but I did get a new pair of shoes.  They actually really help with my sore feet and aching back.  Physically I am doing better but I still have pain.  I told them that I have a job interview on the 29th and I will let them know if I will continue to work.   Part of me just wants to quit and to concentrate on moving and getting settled once I have my call in hand.  Another part of me thinks I should continue to work.  I guess it depends on when my start date is.  This week they have me working close to 40 hours.  It will be interesting what they put me down for next week since they know I will most likely be leaving soon.

I must say this transition time between graduation and first call has not been easy.  I was told that it would not be — we have done our best to make it as smooth as possible and for the most part it is smooth.  I don’t know what i would of done without my parents help.  It would of been a lot harder without them.  I guess that’s what family is for…..thank God for Vermont.

No Time

I don’t have much time to blog right now.  I have to leave for my next shift at the resturant in about an hour.  I have not had internet all week.  My wife and I were in Philadelphia packing up our apartment and putting 98% of our wordly possesions in a 10×15 storage locker.  My hope is that it will stay there until we move to our new residence wherever God leads us.  It was a long and exhausting week but it is done.  I am sad to say I am not sure when we will be headed to PA again.

My body hurts and I am stressed but things are actually going quite smoothly.  We are packed up and moved out, my next interview in this first call process is next Wednesday.  I am not sure what I am going to do next week for internet because I will be at the Upstate NY Synod Assembly.  It should be a good time though.

I have a job at the Sports Legends bar and grill as a line cook.  I really don’t like it but it is money in this time of unemployment.  I feel bad being there only a short time.

Well I have to go and figure out what I am going to do about my sore back so I can make it through my 6 hour shift……

Trip to Upstate NY

This past weekend we took a trip to the area where our possible first call is going to be.  It was pretty exciting.  It made this process more real to me.  To be able to see the church in which I will be serving, to view the town and see the culture was really cool.

Before we made it to the town we met a friend of mine from college and her two kids for lunch.  Her two kids are the same ages as mine, and our four year old boys really got along.  It was nice to catch up with her and have her meet my wifey. My friend and her family live about an hour from where we might be so that was exciting.  At least we will have someone we know who lives close by who is not part of the church.

After lunch we made it to our little town.  It is actually bigger than I thought it was going to be. But it was nice.  We drove around and looked at things and took some notes about the area.  We really enjoyed it.  We were even able to talk with a daycare director about possible employment for my wifey as well as openings for the kids.

There were many things that we did not see.  It is hard to fit everything in with just one visit.  The next time we will be up in the area will be for an interview.

As of right now my name will go to the church within the next week and then things should move pretty quickly after that.

It is hard for the waiting but on the more praticle side we need to start giving notice to people as to when we are leaving. Our landlord wants 60 days, my wife’s work wants 30 days notice.  It is hard to give them that notice if we do not know when we are going to be leaving.  But that will all come into place soon.

That’s the update as to where we are at.  It is an exciting time that’s for sure.  But in order to make sure all this happens I need to pass my classes so I am off to study.

Half Naked

“My daughter does not recognize you unless you are half naked.”

This comment may seem inappropriate outside of the context in which it was said.  As many of you know I teach swimming lessons at the local YMCA.  I have been doing it a little over a year.  It has been an opportunity for me to give back to the community, to actually go to the YMCA to work out some during the week, and I get a free membership.    I love the water, I always have so it is a good fit.

Well I saw one of my favorite kids at Wal-Mart yesterday when I was buying my kids Easter basket stuff.  She would not talk to me!! She is four years old and was being shy and I understand that.  I was in a different context, and not in my bathing suit.  Her mom said that she talks about me all the time during the week.  Once she saw me in my car and now every time they see a maroon van she thinks it is me driving.   But she she said the above comment it just seemed weird to think that is actually true to some degree!

We then talked for a moment about my assignment.  I did not really think before about what we were leaving behind.  How much we are going to miss no matter where we moved.  There are a number of things that we have to leave that will be sad in some respect.  I will be leaving my community at the Y – I have really enjoyed teaching the kids and being an important part of that community and it will be sad to say good-bye and that I most likely will never see or hear from these people again.  We will be leaving the community built up at the day care.  All of the wonderful people we have met there, especially the relationships that The Boy has established.  I am thankful that he is young enough that he will be sad at first but he will be able to rebound from it pretty quickly.   And of course we will be leaving the seminary community, but that is one that is obvious and we have been preparing for that.

I have heard about a first call opportunity.  I am really excited about this possibility if it comes through – at least from the website.  I think for my first call it is in a good location- in a nice suburb but close to a city-  actually close to a college town which is even cooler.  Doing the math- if we wanted to go and see my family just for a day that would be possible.  Or if we left on a Friday night we could leave after work and we won’t get there some crazy hour.  So things are very positive right now.

Right now is March Madness.  It is honestly the only time that I get real excited about college sports.  I love the idea of college sports and how the kids (yes I consider college students kids – I am that old) really care about  the sport they are playing and how much heart is put into everything they do.  But I don’t know if it is a time thing or desire or both but I don’t really follow anyone.  I really don’t have a connection with a college so I don’t have any passion.  Being from northern New England, I did not have a big college that I am connected with.  The Boston area college sports were never really that big – the biggest would be UConn and I like to tune into a basketball game every now and again but that’s about it.  Perhaps that will change in the future……

I do fill out a March Madness bracket every year, and by my performance this year (as well as years in the past) you can tell that I don’t really follow college ball.

I am trying to get myself in the frame of mind for the three days….  I must say with everything else going on, and the fact that this is my final year for the rest of my life where I will not be working during the three days, I must say my spiritual connection with this time of the year has taken a backseat.  I hope to go to a Good Friday service in about an hour, and then I am preaching tomorrow night- then Sunday morning I am going to the Sunrise service followed by serving breakfast with my youth group.  Very different from last year.

I want to thank everyone for your warm words and meaningful messages this past week.  It has been a roller coaster for sure, and to hear how much support we have from everyone has been great.  I have to say we are in a really good place right now and we are VERY excited about our future and what God has in store for us. Once I can divulge information  I will.  Keep checking back.

Germs and first call

I must say Germs suck — that’s right, they do.  Especially when they come and attack a sweet innocent little girl. I have not been on the computer much lately because I have been spending time taking care of my family.  My little girl (who turned 1 last Thursday) has been sick for awhile.  First there have been ear infections…..she has had between 8-10 in the last 6 months.  Needless to say she needs tubes.  That surgery is coming March 5th.  But beyond that she has had a couple of viruses that has made her miserable.  She had a stomach bug which is bad enough (I was the brunt of most of the projections) – but she was getting dehydrated because she could not keep anything down.  Thank God we did not have to go to the hospital for IVs or anything and she started to feel better.  But once she started to feel better things got worse…….she suddenly got a fever that would not go away.  This time we were sent to the hospital for a battery of tests- which all came back negative.  The doctors said it was some kind of virus but they did not know what.  After four days of the fever  she got a rash.  The good thing of the rash is that we finally found out why she had the fever.  She had Roseola which is a virus that shows a fever followed by a rash.  It is very contagious so like most of the sickness she has experienced this year, she most likely got it from the day care.

The really sad thing about being a parent is to watch your child suffer with some sort of sickness (or in anyway) and there is very little that you can do in order to help them.  You wish they they can understand what is going on but she is so little and so sick that she has no idea.  I am thankful that everything was gone by her birthday (February 14th) and she was healthy and happy for her birthday party on Saturday.

I have been struggling lately as well….I lost my voice around Christmas and I had to have tests done and I have been diagnosed with Reflux Laryngitis – it is manageable but I still get hoarse after talking a lot or singing, but in about 4-5 weeks I should be 100%.

That’s all the major stuff on the home front.  “The boy” (my son) is doing well and he is going to be four years old later this month.  I can’t believe he is already four years old.  I know it sounds sappy but I still remember when he was born, and holding him for the first time.  Now he is his own little man and he is doing his own thing.  Tonight we prayed our bed time prayer with his Godmother.  Even though he was being shy (he only prayed the “now I lay me…” prayer and not the Lord’s Prayer with her) I thought it was great. He was really excited to do it and to watch him interact with her over the phone was great.  He was excited but shy– I could tell he was being shy because he had his hands in his mouth, dead give away.  I hope it can be a regular thing and we can do it with his Godfather as well.

I am taking a Chataism class this semester and we are talking about the Ten Commandments, the Creeds and Lord’s Prayer.  I have been thinking  about them and how to connect them with my children.  I think at this age he is just being familiar with what they are is good enough, but it is something I hope to explore in this class and in the years to come with my children.

I just finished watching “My Dad is Better Than Your Dad.”  The premise of the show is for dad’s and their children compete in challenges both physical and mental to see which combo can outlast the rest.  Like any reality show there is an element of “you stink” at the end.  I don’t know if I like that aspect when it comes to children.  It is one thing for adults to get in the mix and try and win money and make a fool of themselves, but when you drag children into it you can really harm them, by them thinking that it was their fault that they lost or that their dad is not good enough.  What do you think?

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On Wednesday we will have the regional assignments for our first call.  A Bishop representative from each of the nine regions, and a seminary are currently in Chicago talking about 200 and something candidates going into the first call process.  They read about each candidate and pray for them and then decide which area they are going to send the candidates.

This Wednesday a phone call will come into the seminary from Chicago from our Seminary Representative.  The community will have a worship service and then all the seniors will gather at the presidents house to find our regional assignment.

As someone awaiting their decision it is really nerve-racking.  My wife and I hope that we are assigned to Region seven.  On the one hand it would be flattering that another region would really want me to come to their synod, however I know what would be best for us and our family.

For Region Seven the bishops from each synod (Upstate New York, Metro-New York, New Jersey, Northeast Penn, Southeast Penn, and New England) personally interview each individual assigned to the region and then assign the go behind closed doors and fight for us to come to their synod.  (Well I hope they would at least want me)  I have let most people know that we would like to come to the New England Synod.  That’s where our family is and most of our friends, so we would like to be close.  We would like that support which we dearly miss.   We especially miss it now because we are separated from our second home (the seminary)  this year living in Souderton.  But we have and continue to manage.

So that is what is going on with us recently, that’s only part of what our lives have been recently.  It never ends….but we are in a very exciting time in our life, there are many possibilities that lay ahead of us and we are going to need lots of prayers and support the next few months as our future is played out in the hands of people who only know me by a piece of paper.